尊重與信任

今天想要談《尊重與信任》這個話題。我沒有權利為大家決定誰對誰錯，也沒有權利指導他人，但是希望大家在這分享當中可以領悟到《尊重》和《信任》的重要。

感恩、尊重、愛

就像靜思語說的：“要感恩、尊重、愛”。往往一時的疏忽，一時的自我，傷害了他人對我們的尊重。每當這個尊重被輕視了，自然的，別人對您的信任就減少了。

擧個平時常見的例子，就如父母離婚后要爭孩子的事件一樣。父親想要擁有孩子，不想把孩子交在母親的手中保管，更不願意共同輪流照顧那孩子。母親也是一樣。因爲如此，父母親打官司，最大的受害者是誰？那孩子的意見有沒有被尊重、背靠量？

再一個例子，有兩個不同的Project，最後還是前往同一個目標。因爲雙方人手不足，Project協調就拼命搶人手。而站在中間的員工，想參與Project B，因爲他認爲Project B有更多讓他發揮潛能的空間。可是Project A的協調就是不放手，也不管這位員工的意見。

各位，如果您是那一位員工，您覺得您的意見被尊重嗎？

好，再多給其他的例子。黨有一位長久不見的好友見到您，但仍然記得您的名字，您覺得他尊重您嗎？您是否有那種感覺：“不可思議！他盡然還可以記得我的名字！”相反的那儅有人寫錯您的名字的時候呢？

所以這裡要借機會懺悔，有時候因爲自己不用心，一時的疏忽，缺乏了對他人的的尊重。因爲説話的不用心，所以讓自己傷害了他人。因爲一時的小動作，傷害了友情和親情。

信己無私，信人又愛

可能有一些人有曾看過一封有關《信任》的Chain E-mail。電信裏描述著一位年輕人因爲找到了法律的漏洞，而常常在搭公車的時候沒有購買車票。這位以輝煌成績畢業后的年輕人，到好幾閒大公司去面試，可是都沒有被錄取。最後詢問公司后才知道，原來因爲過去沒買車票被警告，所以公司認爲這位年輕人不尊重國家給人民的信任。

一時的疏忽，讓自己失去了別人對您的信任，多可惜啊！

再看回先今的生活，平時有沒有把信任交給他人，讓他發揮最大的良能呢？還是分了一份工作給他，又一直要在旁邊指指點點的？

要先分清楚，在旁邊指指點點，跟全程的陪伴是有所不同的。如果在旁邊指指點點的，他會是希望他人照著他的指示去做，而最後的成果，會是有如他自己做的。相反地，如果在身邊陪伴的，他會給與意見，不會為他做決定，而是鼓勵新人自己探討自己，發現自己的能力，而最後的成果，會是新人自己的作品。

就像靜思語所說的：“要信己無私，信人又愛”。簡單來説，要相信自己的能力，因爲人有無限的可能。同樣的要相信他人，要對他有愛的信任，鼓勵他，相信他會盡心盡力去把事做好。當然，也不能隨便完全相信他人，而是要用智慧思考、探討，才用心去相信他人。

就如我在中學時期，最要好的朋友多數會是較差班的同學。因爲我們互相尊重，互相信任，所以友情會是最難得的。我不曾看低他們，因爲我知道他們都是大贏家，都是社會最能幹的人，都是最有生命力的人。這些友情，對我來説是很特別的。

在社會中做事也是一樣，要尊重對方，要信任他可以把最好的呈現出來。因爲尊重，我們才能得到大家的祝福，互相成就共同的目標。因爲有了信任，我們才能安心把事情做好。在這裡，祝福大家。

Getting old…

For the past few months, my dad has been complaining to me that his mobile phone screen is so small.

Then last week, he got himself a new 3.2” touchscreen phone with the font size set to ‘large’.

Yet, he complained to me that the screen is still small.

It made me realize one thing:

My parents are both getting older as the day passes.

The day would come where my dad would ask me to read out his messages, and I would have to send E-mails with large fonts to my mom.

If only Apple could release an iPhone with a screen size as big as the iPad, I would not even hesitate to get one for them.

In short, love your parents dearly before you’re left with memories of them.

命運。。。

有的人就是有那所謂的“命運”。

生下來，就有那個福，活在比一般人更多的幸福中。

所謂的“命運”，生命的前半段是沒有辦法改變的。

但是，生命的下半段，就在您掌握中，所以說：“ 人生劇本自己寫”。

如果願意在這前半段的“命運”中，耕種福田，后半段的生活一定有所改變。

“命運”，難道就一定要服從嗎？

“命運”，就讓它決定一切嗎？

醒來了哦！沒有他人美好的“命運”，就得耕耘自己的。

An offer that came a bit late

Why can’t this offer come one year ago?

If it came one year ago, I wouldn’t be in this stage right now.

I can’t believe that I’m torn in between of these two decisions again.

Unlike the previous, these two offers are much better than before.

A harder decision to make,

Where this one decision would affect my whole life.

Do hope this time, I’m thinking very, very carefully.

 

四個月來。。。

已經是第四個月啦！就快要第五個月了。。。

經歷過種種的情緒變動。。。

從開始什麽都不懂的人，明白了社會的複雜。

每天都借著上人靜思語的陪伴，支持自己走下去。

天天都有父母親，朋友的關心，自己頓時不再覺得寂寞。

久而久之，發現到原來多數人都患上“缺愛症”，都是需要他人關心的。

祝福自己，接下來的十一個月，要更把握時間，超越自己，勇敢去夢想。

縂有一天，回頭去看，就會覺得“我長大了！”

加油吧！

I saw a girl

I saw a girl lying in pain in the hospital.

I saw her mom crying in pain beside the bed.

I saw the girl ignoring her mom, throwing a tantrum.

I saw the mom begging her to listen, while the doctors treated her.

I saw the pain of a parent loving her daughter so desperately.

I saw the ignorance of the daughter of the mother’s love.

It got me mad.

Mad of why a child so selfish.

Mad of why a mother so selfless.

Mad of the ungrateful daughter.

Still, life goes on and the daughter will learn.

Someday, that she will lose a caring mother.

Someday, she will suffer in regrets and remorse.

May she meet someone, who could tell her that she has the greatest mother on earth.

And may she learn from them, the importance of filial piety.

 

對的事情，做就對了。

The photo says it all… If something is right, just do it.

By the way, the photo is lovely isn’t it?

膨脹

有一些人，自我膨脹。

雖然沒有炫耀，但是就是讓他人不滿。

因爲自己的行爲，行動，導致多人的不滿。

可惜，自己不懂。

 

儅有人一直針對那些自我膨脹的人的時候，

這些人反而覺得不公品，怎麽一直有人說他，批評他。

但是有沒有想想，自己平時的膨脹又是怎麽樣？

難道平時沒有自我反省嗎？

 

無奈啊。。。告訴他缺點了，可是還是不會自我反省。

既然說了，就算了。

Insightful meet

What an insightful meet… Learnt so much about my work and also how I should be handling things.

Thank you for the advice, and I look forward to learning more things from you.

Also, all the best to you in your teaching at Mahsa.

 

Thanks to my many 慈青 friends, 學長姐, and 師姑師伯 for the advice and and support too.

They gave me lots and lots of love and encouragement to go through with what I’m facing at the moment. I’ll make sure that everyone of you will be well credited in my thesis writing… haha.

 

The days of blue blue skies…

While the we were in the car the other day, we had a good chat…

on people, on places, on attitude, on work, on news, on matters, on traffics, on ethics, on future…

 

And then, we discussed something both of us see eye to eye…

We’re so small in this planet. We’re so insignificant. The universe is ever expanding, and here, why are we so boastful? Why should we waste time being affected by others’ emotions?

Let’s face the fact: it is true, isn’t it?

This doesn’t mean that one should give up life as it doesn’t matter to anyone. Instead, one should cherish every moment, make good use of time, and live life for yourself, to serve other people, to contribute yourself to the society.

Some people may not believe in afterlife, but remember this:

When you go, you go alone.

When you go, you leave EVERY PHYSICAL THING behind.

When you go, you take only your good and bad karma.

 

So, when you’re all stressed out, living in other people’s expectations, take a look outside your window. Feel the air, watch the sky. It’s not often you get to see a blue blue sky like this, but when you do, let it remind you that life is too short, and don’t let these good opportunities slip by your hands, cause you may NEVER get a second chance.

Just to share with everyone. Best Wishes.

Last weekend…

Last weekend was quite a happening one. Moving out and moving in to somewhere else. Went to Klang to visit my uncle and aunt…

Since my dad normally go to Pulau Indah for a flight up into the sky, I tagged along with him. First, we visited and stayed overnight at my uncle’s place, then we went over to Tanjung Harapan for a quick stop. It was my very first time there.

They were having a fishing competition, and the first prize winner gets RM 15,000!!!

 

They also had a big ship cemented to the ground. Too bad I couldn’t get on board as the staircase was blocked by the organisers.

After the quick tour, we went over to the usual spot, where my dad normally trains for his kiting and paramotor.

Anyways, if any of you guys wanted to go up in the air, you’re most welcome to query about it. They do have tandems where the pilot could fly you up for a fee.

As for now, life is tough over here. Feeling lonely, stressed out even though actual work hasn’t started just yet. Two days ago I witness someone being scolded in front of everyone and I was told that this occurs quite commonly. I’m very much concern. I work better with complements and some stress, but definitely not under anger, fear and afraid.

So every morning, I wake up to 2 Jing Si Aphorisms, helping me along the way. And here are what I’ve got to share with everyone.

人生只怕不去做，不怕做不到，                        應善用我們的每一天，去為人群付出。

不要想失去了多少，應該想還擁有多少，                人生就能知足快樂。

                                              ~證嚴法師靜思語

May plans go smoothly…

人生的最後一天

經過了幾天前的意外后，讓我一時領悟了，不要等到人走了，才後悔。

借此機會，來說說心中想說的一些話。。。

敬愛的媽媽，

感恩您，我小時候的照顧，花時間照顧我。

感恩您，每天早上七早八早起來為我準備早餐，讓我有便當帶去學校。

感恩您，讓我每天有成長的機會。

感恩您，給我自立的機會。

感恩您，時時提醒安全，關心我。

感恩您，不斷地鼓勵，在我最需要愛的時候，您都出現。

感恩您，照顧我的學業，確保我沒有在煩惱金錢的環境中長大。

感恩您，走入了慈濟，改變了自己的人生。

感恩您，感恩了還是要感恩。

敬愛的爸爸，

感恩您，讓我在不同的環境下長大。

感恩您，我小時候載我上學，接我回家。

感恩您，讓我接觸了不同的人，讓我有機會在人與人之間的成長。

感恩您，時時地關心，也讓我有機會自立，勇於承擔。

感恩您，讓我知道更多姿多彩的世界。

感恩您，讓我了解人生的可貴。

感恩您，讓我有機會接觸別人沒有機會接觸與學習的東西與活動。

感恩您，再忙，也抽空過來看我，關心我。

感恩您，把世界最好吃的榴蓮選出來給我吃。

感恩您，感恩了還是要感恩。

師公上人常常開釋，行善行孝不能等。父母恩重難報啊！

敬愛的姐姐，

感恩您，再多的委屈，也是時時關心我。

感恩您，讓我有機會接觸了不同的朋友。

感恩您，跨越自己，不斷成長。

感恩您，讓我在一個充滿音樂的環境下成長。

感恩您，讓我有機會磨練自己的耐心、毅力。

感恩您，讓我了解，錢不是一切。

感恩您，讓我了解，只要自己肯站起來，一定有美好的明天。

感恩您，讓我明白，人與人之間的摩擦是可以減少的。

感恩您，感恩了還是要感恩。

敬愛的阿姨、姨丈、表哥姐弟妹們，

感恩您們，時時關心，讓我有機會在充滿愛的大家庭裏成長。

感恩您們，讓我有機會接觸了人與人之間的摩擦。

感恩您們，讓我有機會在一個充滿教育的家庭中長大。

感恩您們，讓我了解了互相關心的重要。

感恩您們，感恩了還是要感恩。

敬愛的姑姑，姑丈，伯父伯母、堂哥姐弟妹們，

感恩您們，讓我知道被叫叔叔/伯伯個感受。

感恩您們，讓我多了解多姿多彩、無憂無慮的生活。

感恩您們，給我種種的考驗，讓我有機會成長。

感恩您們，時時的關心與關懷。

感恩您們，感恩了還是要感恩。

敬愛的慈濟大家庭，

感恩您們，圓滿了這個大家庭，讓我充滿愛的成長。

感恩師公上人，讓我有機會了解真正的慈悲大愛、充滿智慧的佛教。

感恩大愛爸爸媽媽們，時時地關心，讓我有機會享用豐富美食，讓我有機會溫暖的成長。

感恩學長姐，讓我了解人生的重要性，為他人服務的幸福。

感恩慈青伙伴們，讓我更了解人生的方向，一切都是好因緣。

感恩那麽多人的成就，感恩那麽多人的付出，感恩了還是要感恩。

敬愛的朋友們，

感恩您們，時時地關心，讓我生活充滿樂趣。

感恩您們，讓我了解什麽就是surprised到哭！

感恩您們，讓我了解互相幫忙的重要。

感恩您們，讓我接觸了種種的人與人之間的考驗。

感恩您們，讓我有機會感受到友情的重要。

感恩您們，感恩了還是要感恩。

那麽充滿愛的世界，哪裏值得讓我浪費精神在生氣、怨恨呢？

感恩各位用心聆聽我的心聲。感恩合十。

 

好書介紹：考驗

真是一本好書，看看證嚴法師如何面對挑戰，如何用智慧解決種種的考驗。

本書可以在靜思書軒請購。

 

Too busy to abandon blog…

I’ve been too busy … where got time to even consider abandon blog… just to inform you that I’m too busy, need some time away from blogging also so difficult already.

Anyways, next week is going to be worse. The only thing I can do now is…

I will try my very best to do whatever I can… By the way, would you like to see how busy is my schedule?

This Week:
Study Oncology, Virology Lab Test, Medical Genomics
Prepare for IPC Presentation.
Summarise Oncology Journal.
Complete virology assignment.
Prepare FYP presentation slides, confirm thesis printing price.
Head over to Putrajaya to complete my studies application.

Next week:
Monday: Might head over to Taiwan Embassy
Tuesday: MG Quiz 2
Wed: Viro Lab Test, IPC presentation
Thur: Pharmaco lab report, Onco journal summary submission
Fri: Onco test 2, Viro assign presentation, collection of thesis for printing.

A lot more haven’t included yet… the small small details are the time consuming ones…

All the best to everyone!

Out and away…

Yes. I’m going outstation for a few days… in the mean time, take care ya…

失望

突然觉得，有些人，真的很自私。为了自己，不管他人。

我最不喜欢的人，就是帮了您又要给您脸色看的。

如果不要帮，就干脆把它忘了。我也不想要这种人的帮助。

做人不需要这么自私的。如果不想要帮人，就直接说声：“我不想帮你”。

我也不需要浪费时间，期望您的帮忙。真是费时，费力气。

就像这种高傲自大的人，不需要您的帮忙。真是浪费时间。还是靠自己好了。

所以做人，一定要记得。。。

Research…

Today, I discovered the meaning of ‘Research’…

‘Re-’ means that you have to do it again and again…

‘-Search’  means that you have to look and do and hunt for answers and solutions, no matter what…

So what happened?

I’m doing PCR and few days ago, my PCR went well, with the negative control showing no bands. Which is good!

But today… both my PCR run, gave some unsatisfying results, and all the negative controls show bands.

Contamination? perhaps…

I really feel the frustration of not getting the expected results… and I really don’t feel like wasting more resources… Really pity my lab mate… he has been getting bad results for over a week already…

Tomorrow, I will autoclave everything… clean everything… change some of the things I’ve been using all the while… and when I’m satisfied, I will run 2 negative controls… hopefully, none of my current reagents are contaminated…

Wish me luck~!

 

 

P/S: To all other friends who are doing your research as well… hopefully this can encourage you. :)

DON’T GIVE UP!!!

Nervous, nervous…

It’s been a while since I feel this way…

I’ve been nervous through out most of the papers…

Writing answers so fast till my hand hurts… It’s insane…

And basically every lecturer makes us a photocopier machine…

The joy of studying and knowledge gaining is no longer fun as before…

So how?

What I can say is that I shall do my best.

And to all others out there… try your best too.

It’s only a few more days till the end of the semester, and here comes the practical projects…

Donation Drive at Sri Rampai

Although it’s late… it was a happy evening…

Got involved in Tzu Chi’s Donation drive for Taiwan Typhoon Victims.

Tired, but happy… filled with love and joy…

Thank you everyone who donated. And thank you to those who did not. And thank you to those who learn more about people like us. Thank you.

人文 2.0

做人，并不是那么的难。

只要简单就好，不伤害其他人就好。就是那么的简单。

但，如果一个人因为妒忌其他人，因为想要伤害其他人，因为喜欢取笑那些失败的人。。。那我也无能为力。

我不介意他人伤害我，因为我一念心，可以改变所有。

但，如果因为一些动作而伤害到了他人，我觉得，您不但伤害了他人，也伤害了我们的缘分。

时间可以冲淡一切。。。我最后也是会原谅您。但是，那些被您伤害的人能不能在站起来，我才是最担心。

最后，我也能做的事，就是改变自己。这里，要提醒自己，我的“四物汤”与“四神汤”还喝得不够也。。。